Fatherhood is forever
“For this cause I bow my knees to the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ,
of Whom all paternity in Heaven and earth is named."
enacted, it participates in the eternal.
Undiminished. Ageless. Ceaseless.
It is a seal. It is an identity
from which we can never be extricated: it cannot be taken from a
father. Strip him of all things; take his clothes, his shoes, his
money; deprive him of his good name and all esteem, take from him
his honor, his strength, his health; leave him naked and covered
in ashes and contumely — take all these things from
him; deprive him of hope in every dream. Take this all … and more
… but you will not, for you cannot, take from him his fatherhood.
It is a seal upon his soul; it is his ontological presence in the
universe, from which vast parts of the universe unfold, generation
In his children he is one.
In his children he is become many.
A father’s dignity is great, but it is made great only
and through his children. In his children he is ennobled,
however base he may become, and in this sense, they are his redemption.
Yes, he has given them life. But they have conferred dignity
upon life, for they have made him like unto God Who is Father of
Fatherhood, in its creative impetus, both emulates the Fatherhood
of God, and derives from it … and in God alone it participates and
It is not just perpetuity that binds father to child, but eternity.
He is forever a father, once having fathered.
Alas for sorrow, in this life, with Rachel he may weep in Ramah,
that his beloved children are no more … yes, in this life
they may be no more, nor may he swathe them in his anguish, lave
them in his tears — but his fatherhood endures … for his children
endure — forever.
The very fabric of the universe stirs under the breath of life,
even as it respires beyond a father's grasp, is lifted from his
bronzed arms, and borne upon the promise of prophets. A father brings
to being what he must ever relinquish, and his breath pales on the
fringe of glory.
Here, in that penumbra between what was not, what is, what must
be, and what will ever be; in that pale nimbus borne trembling upon
a father's hands ... fatherhood even enters the sacral, for it enters
into, even as it issues forth from, the Motherhood
of Mary, who is the Mother of Life — who alone, in all
creation, bore within herself the Way, the Truth, and the Life.
The Mother of Sorrows … how well we understand each other. You buried
your Son. I buried my child, too.
The world had sifted her through my fingers, and I have wept the
tears of death. I have seen the dwelling of Holy Innocents far above
the still and empty cradle.
In my grief, have I not cried up to God, my Father:
“Yet she lives! … In Thee! … Unto Thee! And surely Thou
keepest her for me. I will yet behold the face of my daughter!”
… I have dwelt in Ramah.
But she who was no more, by her very being, swift as a baby’s breath
in the incensed wind, gave unto me this gift, this pledge to all
that is eternal: I am her father.
I have been anointed with fatherhood. It cannot be reaved of me.
Nor can she!
I am, as in no other aspect of my being, my fatherhood. The Most
High God gave this to me – through her – as an imperishable gift,
an everlasting inheritance! So great is His pledge that it is indefeasible
to, inexpungable within, my very being itself.
My children are mine. And I am theirs.
always, always be.
That is why, in the culmination of his years, heedless of all else,
the father ran to his prodigal son. This was his treasure — not
what the son had taken, but what he had brought
In utter poverty, covered with shame, blemished in sin, discarded
by the world, unadorned, unshod … the son bore to his father the
treasure of all time, the treasure for all time: flesh of
his flesh, blood of his blood … the child in whose absence a father
The Father of Every Child
A father is father to every child
in the world. Every baby, every child, is his … too.
Because it is given by God, and is a participation in the Fatherhood
of God Himself, fatherhood is a pouring forth upon all children,
extends to all children, and because of God's predilection for the
abandoned, especially for orphans … for we ourselves are,
one and all, adopted sons and daughters of God.
Only Christ is consubstantial with the Father.
We are — each of us — orphans withal, adopted by the Father through
the Son. It is not by nature, but by predilection and grace, that
we are God’s children. If we are children of the One Father, are
we not, then, children of every father who participates in,
has received his fatherhood from, the Fatherhood of God Himself?
Fatherhood of Grace
This is the fatherhood of grace. It is such a breathlessly beautiful
fatherhood, for father binds himself to child, and child to father,
through love, each of one nature, one love, while not of one flesh,
grace yielding each to each other; the one covering innocence with
fatherhood, the other investing manhood with fatherhood, and fatherhood
with dignity — and both bound up in one love born of grace for it
is born of God.
My children, even now, cling to my sunburned neck, those of nature
and those of grace, and I know them not apart. Each has possession
of my heart. My life is as readily forfeit for the one as the other.
Their laughter is a perpetual song, an eternal harmony, in my heart.
A father’s heart, I think, is like unto the heart of God.
There is no
There are only children whom I have not yet found.
Totally Faithful to the Sacred
Deposit of Faith entrusted to the Holy See in
opera tua ... quia modicum habes virtutem, et servasti
verbum Meum, nec non negasti Nomen Meum”
know your works ... that you have but little power,
and yet you have kept My word, and have not denied My
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